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Self-Control (Part 2 of 2)

Galatians 5:23
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Many assume self-control is a matter of willpower—you just need to try harder to restrain yourself. This approach is ultimately futile. Discover the true source of self-control as Alistair Begg concludes a study of the fruit of the Spirit on Truth For Life.

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Self-Control

Galatians 5:23 Sermon Includes Transcript 46:35 ID: 3187

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Choose Your Refuge

In the Lord I take refuge; how can you say to my soul, “Flee like a bird to your mountain”?

When it comes to crises in life, it is not a matter of whether they will come but when. And when they do, our response will be to flee to a refuge—somewhere or something or someone we trust will keep us safe and protect us from the storms. So the question then will not be whether we flee but where we flee.

Some of us will take the advice of David’s friends in Psalm 11. These advisors urged him to “flee like a bird to your mountain.” Difficulty had come for David, seemingly in the form of threats to his life, with wicked people preparing to aim their arrows at him (Psalm 11:2). The counsel he received was essentially to head for the hills, to get away, to go somewhere that removed him from adversity.

David did not heed this advice. But what about you? While you likely will not face armed foes threatening you with violence, crisis will come to you someday, in one form or another. It could be social pressure to compromise biblical convictions, an unwanted diagnosis, or intense relational strife. Where will you flee? Will you head for the hills, finding some form of escapism, be it numbing yourself with endless media consumption or abusing a substance, or throwing yourself into frenetic activity in another part of your life? Or will you be able to say with David, “In the LORD I take refuge”?

David had seen God deliver him from bears, lions, and a Philistine giant. The Lord had proven Himself to be a trustworthy refuge, and David took that to heart. David knew the Lord was a mighty refuge; that had been borne out again and again in his life. His trust in God was grounded in experience, making it sturdy enough to withstand life’s darkness and the Evil One’s darts.

Have your eyes been opened to God’s trustworthiness? Have you trusted Him in response? If you are a Christian, remember that your new life began by taking refuge in the Lord Jesus Christ. You were facing the wrath of an eternal God, with no hope to be found. The only hope you had was to cast yourself on God’s mercy and embrace the salvation offered in Christ. And so you fled to Him and found eternal refuge.

God desires for you to seek refuge in Him not only at the beginning of the journey but until Christ returns or calls you home, and not only for eternal salvation but in the storms of this life. Trouble will come—and when it does, you can either head for the hills or you can lift up your eyes beyond the hills and to the Lord “who made heaven and earth” (Psalm 121:2), facing the crisis with confidence and, yes, even joy.

Questions for Thought

How is God calling me to think differently?

How is God reordering my heart’s affections — what I love?

What is God calling me to do as I go about my day today?

Further Reading

The Lord Is in His Holy Temple

To the choirmaster. Of David.

1In the Lord I take refuge;

how can you say to my soul,

z“Flee like a bird to your mountain,

2for behold, the wicked abend the bow;

bthey have fitted their arrow to the string

to shoot in the dark at the upright in heart;

3if cthe foundations are destroyed,

what can the righteous do?”1

4dThe Lord is in his holy temple;

the Lord's ethrone is in heaven;

his eyes see, his eyelids ftest the children of man.

5The Lord gtests the righteous,

but hhis soul hates the wicked and the one who loves violence.

6Let him rain coals on the wicked;

ifire and sulfur and a scorching wind shall be jthe portion of their cup.

7For the Lord is righteous;

he kloves righteous deeds;

lthe upright shall behold his face.

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1 11:3 Or for the foundations will be destroyed; what has the righteous done?

Devotional material is taken from the Truth For Life daily devotionals by Alistair Begg, published by The Good Book Company, thegoodbook.com. Used by Truth For Life with permission. Copyright © 2021, 2022, The Good Book Company.

Go First to God

Go First to God

God, who comforts the downcast.

And who comforts like Him? Go to some poor, melancholy, distressed child of God; tell him sweet promises and whisper in his ear choice words of comfort; he is like the deaf adder that doesn’t listen to the voice of the charmer, even though he charms wisely. He is drinking gall and wormwood, and no matter how you comfort him, you will only get a note or two of mournful resignation from him; you will bring forth no psalms of praise, no hallelujahs, no joyful sonnets. But let God come to His child, let Him lift up his countenance, and the mourner’s eyes glisten with hope. Do you not hear him sing—

‘Tis paradise, if you are here;
If you depart, ‘tis hell.

You could not have cheered him: but the Lord has done it; He is the “God of all comfort.”1 There is no balm in Gilead, but there is balm in God. There is no physician among the creatures, but the Creator is Jehovah-rophi. It is marvelous how one sweet word of God will make whole songs for Christians. One word of God is like a piece of gold, and the Christian is the gold-beater and can hammer that promise out for weeks.

So, then, poor Christian, you need not sit down in despair. Go to the Comforter, and ask Him to give you consolation. You are a poor, dry well. You have heard it said that when a pump is dry, you must pour water down it first of all, and then you will get water; and so, Christian, when you are dry, go to God, ask Him to shed abroad His joy in your heart, and then your joy shall be full. Do not go to earthly acquaintances, for you will find them to be Job’s comforters; but go first and foremost to “God, who comforts the downcast,” and you will soon say, “When the cares of my heart are many, Your consolations cheer my soul.”

1) 2 Corinthians 1:3

Devotional material is taken from Morning and Evening, written by C. H. Spurgeon, revised and updated by Alistair Begg. Copyright © 2003, Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers, Wheaton, IL 60187, www.crossway.org. Used by Truth For Life with written permission.

Daily Bible Reading for February 20

Exodus 3, Luke 6, Job 20, 1 Corinthians 7

The Burning Bush

1Now Moses was keeping the flock of his father-in-law, Jethro, the priest of Midian, and he led his flock to the west side of the wilderness and came to Horeb, the wmountain of God. 2xAnd ythe angel of the Lord appeared to him in a flame of fire out of the midst of a bush. He looked, and behold, the bush was burning, yet it was not consumed. 3And Moses said, “I will turn aside to see this great sight, why the bush is not burned.” 4When the Lord saw that he turned aside to see, zGod called to him aout of the bush, “Moses, Moses!” And he said, “Here I am.” 5Then he said, “Do not come near; btake your sandals off your feet, for the place on which you are standing is holy ground.” 6And he said, c“I am the God of your father, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob.” And Moses hid his face, for dhe was afraid to look at God.

7Then the Lord said, e“I have surely seen the affliction of my people who are in Egypt and have heard their cry because of their ftaskmasters. I know their sufferings, 8and gI have come down to deliver them out of the hand of the Egyptians and hto bring them up out of that land to a igood and broad land, a land jflowing with milk and honey, to the place of kthe Canaanites, the Hittites, the Amorites, the Perizzites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites. 9And now, behold, lthe cry of the people of Israel has come to me, and I have also seen the moppression with which the Egyptians oppress them. 10nCome, I will send you to Pharaoh that you may bring my people, the children of Israel, out of Egypt.” 11But Moses said to God, o“Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the children of Israel out of Egypt?” 12He said, p“But I will be with you, and this shall be the sign for you, that I have sent you: when you have brought the people out of Egypt, qyou shall serve God on this mountain.”

13Then Moses said to God, “If I come to the people of Israel and say to them, ‘The God of your fathers has sent me to you,’ and they ask me, ‘What is his name?’ what shall I say to them?” 14God said to Moses, “I am who I am.”1 And he said, “Say this to the people of Israel: rI am has sent me to you.’” 15God also said to Moses, “Say this to the people of Israel: ‘The Lord,2 the sGod of your fathers, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob, has sent me to you.’ This is tmy name forever, and thus I am to be remembered throughout all generations. 16Go and ugather the elders of Israel together and say to them, ‘The Lord, the God of your fathers, the God of Abraham, of Isaac, and of Jacob, has appeared to me, saying, v“I have observed you and what has been done to you in Egypt, 17and I promise that wI will bring you up out of the affliction of Egypt to the land of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Amorites, the Perizzites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites, a land wflowing with milk and honey.”’ 18And xthey will listen to your voice, and you and the elders of Israel yshall go to the king of Egypt and say to him, ‘The Lord, the God of the Hebrews, has zmet with us; and now, please let us go a three days' journey into the wilderness, that we may sacrifice to the Lord our God.’ 19But I know that the king of Egypt awill not let you go unless compelled bby a mighty hand.3 20So cI will stretch out my hand and strike Egypt with dall the wonders that I will do in it; eafter that he will let you go. 21And fI will give this people favor in the sight of the Egyptians; and when you go, you shall not go empty, 22but each woman shall ask of her neighbor, and any woman who lives in her house, for gsilver and gold jewelry, and for clothing. You shall put them on your sons and on your daughters. So hyou shall plunder the Egyptians.”

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1 3:14 Or I am what I am, or I will be what I will be
2 3:15 The word Lord, when spelled with capital letters, stands for the divine name, YHWH, which is here connected with the verb hayah, “to be” in verse 14
3 3:19 Septuagint, Vulgate; Hebrew go, not by a mighty hand

Jesus Is Lord of the Sabbath

1sOn a Sabbath,1 while he was going through the grainfields, his disciples tplucked and ate some heads of grain, rubbing them in their hands. 2But some of the Pharisees said, u“Why are you doing vwhat is not lawful to do on the Sabbath?” 3And Jesus answered them, w“Have you not read xwhat David did when he was hungry, he and those who were with him: 4how he entered the house of God and took and ate ythe bread of the Presence, ywhich is not lawful for any but the priests to eat, and also gave it to those with him?” 5And he said to them, z“The Son of Man is lord of the Sabbath.”

A Man with a Withered Hand

6On another Sabbath, ahe entered the synagogue band was teaching, and a man was there whose right hand was withered. 7And the scribes and the Pharisees cwatched him, to see whether he would heal on the Sabbath, dso that they might find a reason to accuse him. 8But ehe knew their thoughts, and he said to the man with the withered hand, “Come and stand here.” And he rose and stood there. 9And Jesus said to them, “I ask you, fis it lawful on the Sabbath to do good or to do harm, to save life or to destroy it?” 10And gafter looking around at them all he said to him, “Stretch out your hand.” And hhe did so, and his hand was restored. 11But they were filled with ifury and discussed with one another what they might do to Jesus.

The Twelve Apostles

12In these days jhe went out to the mountain to pray, and all night he continued in prayer to God. 13And when day came, khe called his disciples land mchose from them twelve, whom he named napostles: 14Simon, owhom he named Peter, and pAndrew his brother, and pJames and John, and Philip, and Bartholomew, 15and qMatthew, and Thomas, and James the son of Alphaeus, and Simon who was called rthe Zealot, 16and sJudas the son of James, and Judas Iscariot, who became a traitor.

Jesus Ministers to a Great Multitude

17And the came down with them and stood on a level place, with ua great crowd of his disciples and a great multitude of people from all Judea and Jerusalem and the seacoast of vTyre and Sidon, 18who came to hear him and to be healed of their diseases. wAnd those who were troubled with unclean spirits were cured. 19And all the crowd xsought to touch him, for ypower came out from him and healed them all.

The Beatitudes

20And zhe lifted up his eyes on his disciples, aand said:

“Blessed are you who are poor, for byours is the kingdom of God.

21c“Blessed are you who are hungry now, for you shall be satisfied.

d“Blessed are you who weep now, for you shall laugh.

22“Blessed are you when epeople hate you and when they fexclude you and revile you and gspurn your name as evil, hon account of the Son of Man! 23iRejoice in that day, and leap for joy, for behold, your reward is great in heaven; for jso their fathers did to the prophets.

Jesus Pronounces Woes

24k“But woe to you who are rich, lfor you mhave received your consolation.

25“Woe to you who are full now, for nyou shall be hungry.

“Woe to oyou who laugh now, ofor you shall mourn and weep.

26“Woe to you, pwhen all people speak well of you, for qso their fathers did to rthe false prophets.

Love Your Enemies

27“But I say to you who hear, sLove your enemies, tdo good to those who hate you, 28ubless those who curse you, spray for those who abuse you. 29vTo one who wstrikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold your tunic2 either. 30xGive to everyone who begs from you, and from one who takes away your goods do not demand them back. 31And yas you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.

32z“If you love those who love you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. 33And if you do good to those who do good to you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners do the same. 34And aif you blend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, to get back the same amount. 35But clove your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and dyou will be sons of ethe Most High, for fhe is kind to the ungrateful and the evil. 36gBe merciful, even as hyour Father is merciful.

Judging Others

37ij“Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; jforgive, and you will be forgiven; 38kgive, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put linto your lap. For mwith the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”

39He also told them a parable: n“Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? 40oA disciple is not above his teacher, but everyone when he is pfully trained will be like his teacher. 41iWhy do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but qdo not notice the log that is in your own eye? 42How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother's eye.

A Tree and Its Fruit

43“For rno good tree bears bad fruit, nor again does a bad tree bear good fruit, 44for seach tree is known by its own fruit. For figs are not gathered from thornbushes, nor are grapes picked from a bramble bush. 45tThe good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces uevil, vfor out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.

Build Your House on the Rock

46w“Why xdo you call me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do what I tell you? 47yEveryone who comes to me and hears my words and does them, I will show you what he is like: 48he is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And when a flood arose, the stream broke against that house and could not shake it, because it had been well built.3 49zBut the one who hears and does not do them is like a man who built a house on the ground without a foundation. When the stream broke against it, immediately it fell, and athe ruin of that house was great.”

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1 6:1 Some manuscripts On the second first Sabbath (that is, on the second Sabbath after the first)
2 6:29 Greek chiton, a long garment worn under the cloak next to the skin
3 6:48 Some manuscripts founded upon the rock

Zophar Speaks: The Wicked Will Suffer

1Then cZophar the Naamathite answered and said:

2“Therefore my dthoughts answer me,

because of my haste within me.

3I hear censure that insults me,

and out of my understanding a spirit answers me.

4Do you not know this from of old,

esince man was placed on earth,

5fthat the exulting of the wicked is short,

and the joy of the godless but for a moment?

6gThough his height mount up to the heavens,

and his head reach to the clouds,

7he will perish forever like his own hdung;

those who have seen him will say, i‘Where is he?’

8He will fly away like ja dream and not be found;

he will be chased away like a vision of the night.

9kThe eye that saw him will see him no more,

nor will his place any more behold him.

10His children will seek the favor of the poor,

and his hands will lgive back his wealth.

11His bones are full of his myouthful vigor,

but it will lie ndown with him in the dust.

12“Though evil is sweet in his mouth,

though he hides it ounder his tongue,

13though he is loath to let it go

and holds it in his mouth,

14yet his food is turned in his stomach;

it is the venom of pcobras within him.

15He swallows down riches and vomits them up again;

God casts them out of his belly.

16He will suck the poison of cobras;

qthe tongue of a viper will kill him.

17He will not look upon rthe rivers,

the streams flowing with shoney and tcurds.

18He will ugive back the fruit of his toil

and will not vswallow it down;

from the profit of his trading

he will get no enjoyment.

19For he has crushed and abandoned the poor;

he has seized a house that he did not build.

20“Because he wknew no xcontentment in his belly,

yhe will not let anything in which he delights escape him.

21There was nothing left after he had eaten;

therefore his prosperity will not endure.

22In the fullness of his sufficiency he will be in distress;

the hand of everyone in misery will come against him.

23To fill his belly to the full,

God1 will send his burning anger against him

and rain it upon him zinto his body.

24aHe will flee from an iron weapon;

ba bronze arrow will strike chim through.

25It dis drawn forth and comes out of his body;

ethe glittering point comes out of his fgallbladder;

gterrors come upon him.

26Utter darkness is laid up for his treasures;

ha fire not fanned will devour him;

what is left in his tent will be consumed.

27iThe heavens will reveal his iniquity,

and the earth will rise up against him.

28The possessions of his house will be carried away,

dragged off in the day of God's2 wrath.

29jThis is the wicked man's portion from God,

jthe heritage decreed for him by God.”

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1 20:23 Hebrew he
2 20:28 Hebrew his

Principles for Marriage

1Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: t“It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 3uThe husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5vDo not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, wso that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

6Now as a concession, xnot a command, I say this.1 7yI wish that all were zas I myself am. But aeach has his own gift from God, bone of one kind and one of another.

8To the unmarried and the widows I say that cit is good for them to remain single, das I am. 9But if they cannot exercise self-control, ethey should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

10To the married fI give this charge (not I, but the Lord): gthe wife should not separate from her husband 11(but if she does, hshe should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and gthe husband should not divorce his wife.

12To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. iOtherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you2 jto peace. 16For how do you know, wife, kwhether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Live as You Are Called

17Only let each person lead the life3 lthat the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him. mThis is my rule in nall the churches. 18Was anyone at the time of his call already circumcised? Let him not seek to remove the marks of circumcision. Was anyone at the time of his call uncircumcised? oLet him not seek circumcision. 19pFor neither circumcision counts for anything nor uncircumcision, but qkeeping the commandments of God. 20rEach one should remain in the condition in which he was called. 21Were you a bondservant4 when called? Do not be concerned about it. (But if you can gain your freedom, avail yourself of the opportunity.) 22For he who was called in the Lord as a bondservant is sa freedman of the Lord. Likewise he who was free when called is ta bondservant of Christ. 23uYou were bought with a price; vdo not become bondservants of men. 24So, brothers,5 win whatever condition each was called, there let him remain with God.

The Unmarried and the Widowed

25Now concerning6 the betrothed,7 xI have no command from the Lord, but I give my judgment as yone who by the Lord's mercy is ztrustworthy. 26I think that in view of the present8 distress ait is good for a person to remain as he is. 27Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28But if you do marry, you have not sinned, and if a betrothed woman9 marries, she has not sinned. Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that. 29This is what I mean, brothers: bthe appointed time has grown very short. From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, 30and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy cas though they had no goods, 31and those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it. For dthe present form of this world is passing away.

32I want you to be efree from anxieties. fThe unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. 33But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, 34and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. 35I say this for your own benefit, gnot to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.

36If anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed,10 if his11 passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry—it is no sin. 37But whoever is firmly established in his heart, being under no necessity but having his desire under control, and has determined this in his heart, to keep her as his betrothed, he will do well. 38So then he who marries his betrothed hdoes well, and he who refrains from marriage will do even better.

39iA wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only jin the Lord. 40Yet kin my judgment she is happier if she remains as she is. And I think lthat I too have the Spirit of God.

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1 7:6 Or I say this:
2 7:15 Some manuscripts us
3 7:17 Or each person walk in the way
4 7:21 For the contextual rendering of the Greek word doulos, see Preface; also verses 22 (twice), 23
5 7:24 Or brothers and sisters; also verse 29
6 7:25 The expression Now concerning introduces a reply to a question in the Corinthians' letter; see 7:1
7 7:25 Greek virgins
8 7:26 Or impending
9 7:28 Greek virgin; also verse 34
10 7:36 Greek virgin; also verses 37, 38
11 7:36 Or her
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