
How to Avoid Marital Failure (Part 2 of 2)
Selected ScripturesSome balloons pop unexpectedly. Most, however, leak slowly until they’re deflated. The demise of many marriages can be similarly gradual and undetected. Listen to Truth For Life as Alistair Begg teaches us how to pay closer attention to relationship basics.
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How to Avoid Marital Failure
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At Home in Christ
A home can be a wonderful thing. For many of us, home is where we can be honest, where we’re with our family, and where all things—even the flaws—feel familiar. Perhaps most importantly, though, a true home is where we can be ourselves, in genuine humility. Such ought to be our experience in the fellowship of God’s people.
Paul’s call for Christians to “not be haughty, but associate with the lowly” is a way of calling us to treat one another like family in the household of God. Another way to translate the command “Associate with the lowly” is to say “Be willing to do menial work.” Both translations are helpful; we shouldn’t be so proud that there are either people with whom we won’t associate or jobs we refuse to do.
In the secular world, respectability is measured by status, significance, influence, wealth, intellect, and so on. This must not be the case among Christian men and women. Indeed, one of the distinguishing features of God’s people should be that characteristics such as materialism, pride, and slander, which mark the wider community, are no longer prevalent.
How could we dare give in to the broader culture’s influence when our Lord described Himself as having “nowhere to lay his head” and as being “gentle and lowly in heart” (Matthew 8:20; 11:29)? He came not to save those who are well but those who are sick (Mark 2:17). He continues to call the weak of the world to shame the strong (1 Corinthians 1:27). Even the apostle Paul, that eminently qualified teacher of the law, deemed his entire resumé rubbish in order to gain Christ (Philippians 3:8).
Jesus is building a church, and the church He’s building is the family of God. Our Father is in heaven, our elder Brother is reigning, and our brothers and sisters are worshiping with us. Next time you’re with your church family, take a step out of your comfort zone and get to know a member of the family you don’t normally interact with. Next time you’re asked to do a job or take on a role that you would not naturally be drawn to, ask yourself if this is an opportunity to be humble and not haughty. After all, our elder Brother did not consider a cross beneath Him, and He died there to raise up lowly sinners like you and me. The ground is level beneath His cross. And so His family is to be marked by humble love.
How is God calling me to think differently?
How is God reordering my heart’s affections — what I love?
What is God calling me to do as I go about my day today?
Mark 1:40–45
Jesus Cleanses a Leper
40iAnd a leper8 came to him, imploring him, and jkneeling said to him, k“If you will, you can make me clean.” 41Moved with pity, he stretched out his hand and touched him and said to him, “I will; be clean.” 42And immediately the leprosy left him, and he was made clean. 43And lJesus9 sternly charged him and sent him away at once, 44and said to him, m“See that you say nothing to anyone, but go, nshow yourself to the priest and ooffer for your cleansing what Moses commanded, pfor a proof to them.” 45qBut he went out and began to talk freely about it, and to spread the news, so that Jesus could no longer openly enter ra town, but was out in rdesolate places, and speople were coming to him from every quarter.
Mark 2:1–17
Jesus Heals a Paralytic
1And when he returned to tCapernaum after some days, it was reported that he was at home. 2And many were gathered together, so that there was no more room, not even at the door. And he was preaching the word to them. 3uAnd they came, bringing to him a paralytic carried by four men. 4And when they could not get near him because of the crowd, vthey removed the roof above him, and when they had made an opening, they let down the bed on which the paralytic lay. 5And when Jesus wsaw their faith, he said to the paralytic, “Son, xyour sins are forgiven.” 6Now some of the scribes were sitting there, questioning in their hearts, 7“Why does this man speak like that? yHe is blaspheming! zWho can forgive sins but God alone?” 8And immediately Jesus, aperceiving in his spirit that they thus questioned within themselves, said to them, “Why do you question these things in your hearts? 9Which is easier, to say to the paralytic, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Rise, take up your bed and walk’? 10But that you may know that bthe Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins”—he said to the paralytic— 11“I say to you, rise, pick up your bed, and go home.” 12And he rose and immediately picked up his bed and went out before them all, so that they were all amazed and cglorified God, saying, “We never saw anything like this!”
Jesus Calls Levi
13He went out again beside the sea, and dall the crowd was coming to him, and he was teaching them. 14eAnd as he passed by, he saw fLevi the son of Alphaeus sitting at the tax booth, and he said to him, “Follow me.” And he rose and followed him.
15And as he reclined at table in his house, many gtax collectors and sinners were reclining with Jesus and his disciples, for there were many who followed him. 16And hthe scribes of1 the Pharisees, when they saw that he was eating with sinners and tax collectors, said to his disciples, g“Why does he eat2 with tax collectors and sinners?” 17And when Jesus heard it, he said to them, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. iI came not to call the righteous, jbut sinners.”

Devotional material is taken from the Truth For Life daily devotionals by Alistair Begg, published by The Good Book Company, thegoodbook.com. Used by Truth For Life with permission. Copyright © 2021, 2022, The Good Book Company.

What Is Your Calling
Each one should remain in the condition in which he was called.
Some people have the foolish notion that the only way in which they can live for God is by becoming pastors, missionaries, or Bible teachers. How many would be excluded from any opportunity of spiritual usefulness if this were the case. Beloved, it is not office—it is sincerity; it is not position—it is grace that will enable us to serve and glorify God. God is definitely glorified at the workbench, where the godly worker fulfills his task singing of the Savior's love. In this humble setting God is glorified far more than in many a lofty pulpit where official religion performs its scanty duties. The name of Jesus is glorified by the taxicab driver as he blesses God and speaks to his passengers of the living hope. He will be more useful than the popular preacher who goes about peddling the Gospel for profit. God is glorified when we serve Him in our proper vocations.
Take care, dear reader, that you do not neglect the path of duty by leaving your occupation, and take care you do not dishonor your profession while in it. Think little of yourselves, but do not think too little of your callings. Every lawful trade may be sanctified by the Gospel to noblest ends. Turn to the Bible, and you will find the most menial forms of labor connected either with most daring deeds of faith or with persons whose lives have been illustrations of holiness.
Therefore do not be discontented with your calling. Whatever God has made your position or your work, remain in that, unless you are quite sure that He calls you to something else. Let your first concern be to glorify God to the best of your ability where you are. Fill your present sphere to His praise, and if He needs you in another, He will show it to you. This evening lay aside anxious ambition, and embrace peaceful content.

Devotional material is taken from Morning and Evening, written by C. H. Spurgeon, revised and updated by Alistair Begg. Copyright © 2003, Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers, Wheaton, IL 60187, www.crossway.org. Used by Truth For Life with written permission.
Daily Bible Reading for June 27
1“Give ear, kO heavens, and I will speak,
and let lthe earth hear the words of my mouth.
2May mmy teaching drop as the rain,
my speech distill as the dew,
like gentle rain upon the tender grass,
and nlike showers upon the herb.
3For I will proclaim the name of the Lord;
ascribe ogreatness to our God!
4p“The Rock, qhis work is perfect,
for rall his ways are justice.
A God of faithfulness and swithout iniquity,
just and upright is he.
5They have dealt corruptly with him;
they are no longer his children tbecause they are blemished;
they are ua crooked and twisted generation.
6Do you thus repay the Lord,
you foolish and senseless people?
Is not he vyour father, who wcreated you,
who xmade you and established you?
7yRemember the days of old;
consider the years of many generations;
zask your father, and he will show you,
your elders, and they will tell you.
8When the Most High agave to the nations their inheritance,
when he bdivided mankind,
he fixed the borders1 of the peoples
according to the number of the sons of God.2
9But the Lord's portion is his people,
Jacob his allotted heritage.
10“He found him cin a desert land,
and in the howling waste of the wilderness;
he dencircled him, he cared for him,
he ekept him as the apple of his eye.
11fLike an eagle that stirs up its nest,
that flutters over its young,
spreading out its wings, catching them,
bearing them on its pinions,
12gthe Lord alone guided him,
hno foreign god was with him.
13iHe made him ride on the high places of the land,
and he ate the produce of the field,
and he suckled him with jhoney out of the rock,
and koil out of lthe flinty rock.
14Curds from the herd, and milk from the flock,
with fat3 of lambs,
rams of Bashan and goats,
with the very finest4 of the wheat—
and you drank foaming wine made from mthe blood of the grape.
15“But nJeshurun grew fat, and okicked;
pyou grew fat, stout, and sleek;
qthen he forsook God rwho made him
and scoffed at sthe Rock of his salvation.
16tThey stirred him to jealousy with strange gods;
with abominations they provoked him to anger.
17uThey sacrificed to demons that were no gods,
to gods they had never known,
to vnew gods that had come recently,
whom your fathers had never dreaded.
18You were unmindful of wthe Rock that bore5 you,
and you xforgot the God who gave you birth.
19y“The Lord saw it and spurned them,
because of the provocation of zhis sons and his daughters.
20And he said, a‘I will hide my face from them;
I will see what their end will be,
for they are a perverse generation,
children in whom is no faithfulness.
21bThey have made me jealous with what is no god;
they have provoked me to anger cwith their idols.
So dI will make them jealous with those who are no people;
I will provoke them to anger with ea foolish nation.
22For fa fire is kindled by my anger,
and it burns to gthe depths of Sheol,
devours the earth and its increase,
and sets on fire the foundations of the mountains.
23“‘And I will heap disasters upon them;
hI will spend my arrows on them;
24they shall be wasted with hunger,
and devoured by plague
and poisonous pestilence;
I will send ithe teeth of beasts against them,
with the venom of jthings that crawl in the dust.
25kOutdoors the sword shall bereave,
and indoors terror,
for young man and woman alike,
the nursing child with the man of gray hairs.
26lI would have said, “I will cut them to pieces;
mI will wipe them from human memory,”
27had I not feared provocation by the enemy,
lest their adversaries should misunderstand,
lest they should say, n“Our hand is triumphant,
it was not the Lord who did all this.”’
28“For they are a nation void of counsel,
and there is ono understanding in them.
29pIf they were wise, they would understand this;
they would qdiscern their latter end!
30How could rone have chased a thousand,
and two have put ten thousand to flight,
unless their Rock shad sold them,
and the Lord had given them up?
31For ttheir rock is not as our Rock;
uour enemies are by themselves.
32For their vine vcomes from the vine of Sodom
and from the fields of Gomorrah;
their grapes are grapes of wpoison;
their clusters are bitter;
33their wine is the poison of xserpents
and the cruel venom of asps.
34“‘Is not this laid up in store with me,
ysealed up in my treasuries?
35zVengeance is mine, and recompense,6
afor the time when their foot shall slip;
for bthe day of their calamity is at hand,
and their doom comes swiftly.’
36For cthe Lord will vindicate7 his people
dand have compassion on his servants,
when he sees that their power is gone
and there is none remaining, ebond or free.
37Then he will say, f‘Where are their gods,
gthe rock in which they took refuge,
38who ate the fat of their sacrifices
and drank the wine of their drink offering?
Let them rise up and help you;
let them be your protection!
39“‘See now that hI, even I, am he,
and there is no god beside me;
iI kill and I make alive;
jI wound and I heal;
and there is none that can deliver out of my hand.
40For kI lift up my hand to heaven
and swear, As I live forever,
41if I lsharpen my flashing sword8
and my hand takes hold on judgment,
I will take vengeance on my adversaries
and will repay those who hate me.
42I will make my arrows drunk with blood,
and mmy sword shall devour flesh—
with the blood of the slain and the captives,
from the nlong-haired heads of the enemy.’
43o“Rejoice with him, O heavens;9
bow down to him, all gods,10
for he pavenges the blood of his children11
and takes vengeance on his adversaries.
He repays those who hate him12
and cleanses13 his people's land.”14
44Moses came and recited all the words of this song in the hearing of the people, he and qJoshua15 the son of Nun. 45And when Moses had finished speaking all these words to all Israel, 46he said to them, r“Take to heart all the words by which I am warning you today, sthat you may command them to your children, that they may be careful to do all the words of this law. 47For it is no empty word for you, tbut your very life, and by this word you shall live long in the land that you are going over the Jordan to possess.”
Moses' Death Foretold
48That very day the Lord spoke to Moses, 49“Go up uthis mountain of the Abarim, Mount Nebo, which is in the land of Moab, opposite Jericho, and view the land of Canaan, which I am giving to the people of Israel for a possession. 50And die on the mountain which you go up, and be gathered to your people, as vAaron your brother died in Mount Hor and was gathered to his people, 51wbecause you broke faith with me in the midst of the people of Israel at the waters of Meribah-kadesh, in the wilderness of Zin, and because you did not treat me as holy in the midst of the people of Israel. 52For xyou shall see the land before you, but you shall not go there, into the land that I am giving to the people of Israel.”
Ayin
121I have done what is just and right;
do not leave me to my oppressors.
122Give your servant la pledge of good;
let not mthe insolent oppress me.
123My neyes long for your salvation
and for the fulfillment of your righteous promise.
124Deal with your servant according to your steadfast love,
and oteach me your statutes.
125I am your pservant; qgive me understanding,
that I may know your testimonies!
126It is time for the Lord to act,
for your law has been broken.
127Therefore I rlove your commandments
above gold, above fine gold.
128Therefore I consider all your precepts to be right;
I hate every sfalse way.
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129Your testimonies are twonderful;
therefore my soul ukeeps them.
130The unfolding of your words gives light;
it imparts vunderstanding to the simple.
131I wopen my mouth and xpant,
because I ylong for your commandments.
132zTurn to me and be gracious to me,
as is your way with those who love your name.
133aKeep steady my steps according to your promise,
and let no iniquity bget dominion over me.
134cRedeem me from man's oppression,
that I may keep your precepts.
135dMake your face shine upon your servant,
and eteach me your statutes.
136My eyes fshed streams of tears,
because people gdo not keep your law.
Tsadhe
137hRighteous are you, O Lord,
and right are your rules.
138You have appointed your testimonies in irighteousness
and in all jfaithfulness.
139My kzeal consumes me,
because my foes forget your words.
140Your promise is well ltried,
and your servant mloves it.
141I am small and despised,
yet I do not nforget your precepts.
142Your righteousness is righteous forever,
and your law is otrue.
143Trouble and anguish have found me out,
but your commandments are my pdelight.
144Your testimonies are righteous forever;
Evil and Oppression
1Behold, bthe Lord's hand is not shortened, that it cannot save,
or his ear dull, that it cannot hear;
2cbut your iniquities have made a separation
between you and your God,
and your sins have hidden his face from you
so that he does not hear.
3dFor your hands are defiled with blood
and your fingers with iniquity;
your lips have spoken lies;
your tongue mutters wickedness.
4eNo one enters suit justly;
no one goes to law honestly;
they rely on empty pleas, they speak lies,
fthey conceive mischief and give birth to iniquity.
5They hatch adders' eggs;
they weave the spider's web;
he who eats their eggs dies,
and from one that is crushed a viper is hatched.
6gTheir webs will not serve as clothing;
men will not cover themselves with what they make.
Their works are works of iniquity,
and deeds of violence are in their hands.
7hTheir feet run to evil,
and they are swift to shed innocent blood;
their thoughts are thoughts of iniquity;
desolation and destruction are in their highways.
8The way of peace they do not know,
and there is no justice in their paths;
they have made their roads crooked;
ino one who treads on them knows peace.
9Therefore justice is far from us,
and righteousness does not overtake us;
jwe hope for light, and behold, darkness,
and for brightness, but we walk in gloom.
10kWe grope for the wall like the blind;
we grope like those who have no eyes;
we stumble at noon as in the twilight,
lamong those in full vigor we are like dead men.
11We all growl like bears;
mwe moan and moan like doves;
nwe hope for justice, but there is none;
for salvation, but it is far from us.
12For our transgressions are multiplied before you,
and our sins testify against us;
for our transgressions are with us,
and we know our iniquities:
13transgressing, and denying the Lord,
and turning back from following our God,
ospeaking oppression and revolt,
conceiving and uttering from the heart lying words.
Judgment and Redemption
14pJustice is turned back,
and righteousness stands far away;
for truth has stumbled in the public squares,
and uprightness cannot enter.
15Truth is lacking,
and he who departs from evil makes himself a prey.
The Lord saw it, and it displeased him1
that there was no justice.
16qHe saw that there was no man,
and wondered that there was no one to intercede;
then his own arm brought him salvation,
and his righteousness upheld him.
17rHe put on righteousness as a breastplate,
and a helmet of salvation on his head;
he put on garments of vengeance for clothing,
and wrapped himself in szeal as a cloak.
18tAccording to their deeds, so will he repay,
wrath to his adversaries, repayment to his enemies;
uto the coastlands he will render repayment.
19vSo they shall fear the name of the Lord from the west,
and his glory from the rising of the sun;
wfor he will come like a rushing stream,2
which the wind of the Lord drives.
20x“And ya Redeemer will come to Zion,
to those in Jacob who turn from transgression,” declares the Lord.
21“And as for me, zthis is my covenant with them,” says the Lord: “My Spirit that is upon you, aand my words that I have put in your mouth, shall not depart out of your mouth, or out of the mouth of your offspring, or out of the mouth of your children's offspring,” says the Lord, “from this time forth and forevermore.”
Judging Others
1r“Judge not, that you be not judged. 2sFor with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and twith the measure you use it will be measured to you. 3Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but udo not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? 5You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.
6v“Do not give wdogs what is holy, and do not throw your xpearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.
Ask, and It Will Be Given
7y“Ask, zand it will be given to you; aseek, and you will find; bknock, and it will be opened to you. 8For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened. 9Or which one of you, if his son asks him for cbread, will give him ca stone? 10Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? 11If you then, dwho are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will zyour Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!
The Golden Rule
12“So ewhatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is fthe Law and the Prophets.
13g“Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy1 that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. 14For the gate is narrow and hthe way is hard that leads to life, and ithose who find it are few.
A Tree and Its Fruit
15j“Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are kravenous wolves. 16You will recognize them lby their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? 17So, mevery healthy tree bears good fruit, but the diseased tree bears bad fruit. 18A healthy tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a diseased tree bear good fruit. 19nEvery tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20Thus you will recognize them lby their fruits.
I Never Knew You
21o“Not everyone who psays to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will qenter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who rdoes the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22sOn that day tmany will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not uprophesy in your name, and cast out demons vin your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23tAnd then will I declare to them, ‘I wnever knew you; xdepart from me, yyou workers of lawlessness.’
Build Your House on the Rock
24z“Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like aa wise man who built his house on the rock. 25And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. 26And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like aa foolish man who built his house on the sand. 27And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.”
The Authority of Jesus
28And when Jesus finished these sayings, bthe crowds were astonished at his teaching, 29cfor he was teaching them as one who had authority, and not as their scribes.
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